12 Days of Startup Advice: Day Eleven — The Feels

This year was a year of growth for me. I started 2013 off wanting something different for my career, and I ended it with a new job and new direction in life.

It wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows though, I had a very difficult time finding the courage to take a step forward and make a change. My comfort zone was my bubble, and man did it feel good to go through life protected and inert. I was happy and complacent in my old position (which I had been in for five years), until one day I wasn’t. And that was scary.

She doesn't even go here!

I’ve written about how I saved up an emergency fund and how much I enjoy saving money, and the wage I earned at my old position helped me achieve those goals. I loved money! I loved my pension, and I especially enjoyed having my RRSP contributions automatically deducted off my cheque. Money was my motivator for a long time. Then all my major financial goals were complete and suddenly it didn’t matter anymore. The wage was great, but there was no way to be promoted because of the structure of the organization, and there were only so many new responsibilities I could take on/learn how to do within the scope of that position. I felt stuck, and afraid of what could be next. I had a university degree and work experience, but no idea what to do with it. I realized that I needed a challenge, despite what the comfort bubble was telling me.

Money was my motivator for a long time. Then all my major financial goals were complete and suddenly it didn’t matter anymore.

If it’s one thing Kick Point is good at, it’s feelings. Sarah is our number one feelings-haver, and I’m a close second. Jen just tells us to stop snotting all over everything (and then makes us cry at the Christmas party), and despite Dana’s robotic exterior, she’s prone to feelings sometimes too.

What I’m trying to say is that everyone processes their emotions differently. I learned this year that if I just listen to my gut, it’ll save me a lot of grief not only in my career but in life in general (I am the world’s most indecisive person and I’d save SO much time if I went with my gut over debating endless pros and cons of every option). That works for me. Some people make their best decisions under pressure, while others are intuitive and prefer to talk it out. Get to know yourself, your motivation, and your feelings. LISTEN TO THEM.

My emotions

2013 threw me into (what I now refer to as) the pit of personal growth, and I came out of it a better person. And although gut feelings are not always correct for people, I learned to trust mine. I found the Kick Point posting and I’ve never been so sure of something, yet so fucking terrified at the same time. I was stepping outside my comfort bubble, what did I expect? Taking risks is hard, but there are only two outcomes to a risk*: either it pays off, usually in a life-changing way, or you fail hard and you learn something from it. Hell, even if you take a small risk (I’ll have the breakfast sandwich instead of the wrap today) you’ll learn something (omfg wtf was I thinking breakfast wraps 4lyfe).

Take that leap.

Get to know yourself, take a risk or two. Don’t worry, your comfort bubble will always be there for you. Just don’t stay in there too long.

*I feel the need to explicitly state that I am NOT talking about physical risks here. Kick Point does not advocate jumping off tall things or putting your face really close to high-speed electrical equipment.

Don't do this. DON'T.

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